Write Your Way to Clarity

Using Writing as a Tool to Understand Yourself

Sep 30, 2024

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"We do not learn from experience... we learn from reflecting on experience." —John Dewey

I started publishing "Beyond Two Cents" three years ago to share my ideas, thoughts, and reflections. I never imagined how much this space would grow, evolve, and become integral to my journey. What began as an experiment has become a place for exploration, learning, and connection.

Whether you've been reading me since the beginning or have joined recently, your presence makes all the difference. Your comments, questions, and reflections have inspired and shaped my writing. This journey would not be the same without you.

The development of BTC reflects my path. Writing has become a tool for self-discovery, helping me clarify my ideas, beliefs, and areas I want to explore deeper. It's a natural extension of the growth I've experienced, and I'm excited to see where it takes us next.

I want to express my heartfelt gratitude to each of you. Your engagement makes this journey even more meaningful. BTC wouldn't be what it is without your input and support.

I'm committed to continuing this journey of self-discovery and consciousness-raising, and I'm grateful to have each of you as part of it.

Writing Transforms

Have you ever felt like your mind is a tangled web of thoughts, each pulling you in a different direction? We all have. Navigating a city without a map is overwhelming, confusing, and often leads nowhere. There's a way to untangle that web, to chart a course through the chaos of your mind: reflection.

Reflection is a practical, tangible skill that can transform how you think, act, and navigate life. And the best part? You've got the most powerful tool for reflection right at your fingertips – writing.

Putting pen to paper (or fingers to a keyboard) and letting your thoughts flow. I've been doing it for years, and it's been nothing short of transformative.

Writing has become my GPS, helping me navigate the labyrinth of my mind. It's helped me uncover beliefs I didn't know I had, challenge assumptions I'd never questioned, and chart a course toward the person I want to become. I bet it can do the same for you.

Writing as a Tool for Self-Discovery

When you sit down to write, something magical happens. The frantic pace of life slows, external voices fade away, and you're left alone with your thoughts. It's in this space that self-discovery begins.

Think about it – how often do you articulate your thoughts in complete sentences? In our day-to-day lives, we operate on mental shorthand, half-formed ideas, and gut feelings. Writing forces us to complete those thoughts, to give shape to those nebulous ideas floating around in our heads.

It's like trying to describe a dream. It's a jumble of images and emotions when you first wake up. But the narrative becomes more apparent as you start to put it into words. You remember details you hadn't noticed before. The same happens when you write about your life, beliefs, and desires.

I remember when I first started Beyond Two Cents. I thought I knew what I wanted to say. But as I began writing, I realized how many of my ideas were half-baked assumptions or regurgitated opinions I'd picked up along the way. Writing forced me to question these ideas, dig deeper, and figure out what I believed and why.

There's something about seeing your thoughts in black and white that brings a new level of clarity. It's like you're conversing with yourself, but a more articulate, thoughtful version of yourself. You start to notice patterns in your thinking, recurring themes, and beliefs that have guided your actions without realizing it.

Writing doesn't just help you understand who you are now; it enables you to shape who you want to become. Regularly putting your thoughts on paper -or on the screen- creates a roadmap for your evolution. You can look back and see how far you've come, what you've learned, how you've grown.

I can almost hear some of you thinking, "That's great, but I'm not a writer." You don't have to be! This isn't about crafting polished prose. It's about being honest with yourself. It's about asking questions and being brave to explore the answers, no matter where they lead.

Whether you journal, blog, or jot down notes on your phone, I challenge you to start expressing your thoughts. You might be surprised at what you discover about yourself in the process.

"Writing is an exploration. You start from nothing and learn as you go."

— E.L. Doctorow

The Reflective Process

Reflection is about asking questions and sitting with the answers, no matter how uncomfortable they might be. It's shining a light into the dusty corners of your mind, examining what you find there with curiosity.

The magic happens when you do this consistently. It's like working out – one session at the gym won't transform your body, but a routine will. Similarly, sporadic moments of introspection are helpful, but a consistent reflective practice can revolutionize your life.

So, how do we turn reflection from a vague concept into a practical tool? Let me share some strategies I've found over the years.

First, you've got to carve out dedicated time for reflection. I know, I know – you're busy. We all are. But trust me, this is as important as any meeting or deadline. Treat this time as sacred, whether 5-10 minutes each morning with your coffee or an hour every Sunday afternoon. It's an appointment with yourself, and you wouldn't stand up, would you?

Our brains love routine, so create a ritual around your reflection time. For me, it's drinking peppermint tea and sitting in my chair. For you, it's brewing a special tea or finding a quiet spot in the park. Whatever it is, let it be your cue to shift gears and dive deep.

Sometimes, staring at a blank page can feel like looking into the abyss. That's where prompts come in handy. Keep a list of reflective questions that make you think. Like "What am I avoiding right now?" or "If I could change one thing about my life, what would it be and why?"

Here's another technique that might sound odd, but bear with me – freewriting. Set a timer for 5-10 minutes and... write. Don't stop, don't edit, don't worry about making sense. It's like taking your mind for a jog – you might meander a bit, but you'll always end up somewhere interesting.

Or try conversing with yourself on paper. Sounds crazy, I know, but imagine you're talking to a wiser version of yourself. What would they say about your current situation? What advice would they give? You might be surprised at the wisdom you already possess.

Think of each reflective session as adding a pixel to a larger image. At first, you might see a jumble of colors. But over time, patterns emerge. You start to see connections between seemingly unrelated thoughts or experiences. You notice recurring themes.

I realized that many of my decisions were driven by a fear of disappointing others rather than what I wanted. Although this awareness was uncomfortable, it allowed me to start making choices aligned with myself.

Clarity doesn't always come as a lightning bolt of insight (although those moments happen). More often, it's a gradual lifting of fog. You start to understand why you react in specific ways, what motivates you, and what you genuinely value versus what you think you should value.

Reflection isn't just about navel-gazing. It's about turning insight into action. The clarity you gain through reflection should inform how you live your life, your decisions, and your interactions with others.

Overcoming Resistance

By now, you probably think, "This sounds great, but..." And I get it. I've been there. Regularly sitting down to write, reflect, and dive into the depths of your mind can feel daunting, even terrifying.

Maybe you're telling yourself you're not a "good writer." Perhaps confronting your inner world makes you want to run for the hills. Or maybe, like so many of us, you're convinced you don't have the time.

Well, these are all stories we tell ourselves. And guess what? We can change the narrative.

Tackle the "I'm not a good writer" myth. The secret that most people don't realize is that reflective writing isn't about crafting prose worthy of a Pulitzer. It's not about impressing anyone. It's not even about complete sentences if that's not your style. It's about getting your thoughts out of your head and onto paper (or screen). That's it. No one's grading you. No one's even going to see it unless you choose to share.

Now, about that fear of confronting your thoughts and emotions. I get it. It's scary to look inside sometimes. But here's the thing: those thoughts and feelings? They're there whether you acknowledge them or not. By avoiding them, you're not making them go away. You're just letting them run the show from behind the scenes. Bringing them into the light through writing can be liberating.

And time - ah, the eternal excuse. "I'm too busy," but can you find five minutes? Just five. Because that's all you need to start, you don't need to write a novel. A few sentences and a short paragraph are enough to begin with. It's about creating the habit, not the volume.

So, how do we overcome this resistance and make writing a habit? Here are a few strategies that have worked for me and others I've coached:

Start small—really small. Commit to writing for just five minutes a day. Set a timer if you need to. You'll often find that you want to keep going once you start. But if not, that's okay, too. You showed up, and that's what counts.

Tie it to an existing habit. Do you have a cup of coffee every morning? Make that your writing time. You're more likely to stick with an established routine by piggybacking on it.

Make it easy. Keep a notebook and pen by your bed, or use a notes app on your phone. The less friction between you and writing, the better.

Don't edit as you go. Permit yourself to write badly. The goal is to get thoughts out, not create a masterpiece. You can continually refine it later if you want to.

Try different formats. Traditional journaling may not work for you. Try bullet points, mind maps, or even voice notes you can transcribe later. Find what feels natural.

Celebrate small wins. Did you write for five days in a row? Treat yourself to something you enjoy. Building positive associations with the habit can help it stick.

Find an accountability partner. Share your goal with a friend, or join a writing group. Knowing someone else is expecting you to write can be a powerful motivator.

Be kind to yourself. Don't beat yourself up if you miss a day (or several). Just start again. What matters is consistency over time, not perfection.

The goal isn't to become the next Hemingway. It's to create a space for reflection, self-discovery, and growth. And that space? It's uniquely yours. There's no right or wrong way to do it.

"The unexamined life is not worth living." —Socrates

So, I challenge you—no, I dare you—start today! Right now. Pick up a pen, open a notebook, and write. Write one sentence about how you feel, what you want, and who you are. It doesn't matter what you write. What matters is that you start.

There's a version of you on the other side of that blank page—a version that's clearer about their values, more aligned with their purpose, and more intentional in their actions.

That version of you is waiting. All you have to do is start writing.

Reflection isn't about reaching a destination. It's about embracing the journey. It's about peeling back the layers, challenging your assumptions, and constantly evolving.

You have an entire universe of thoughts, ideas, and potential within you. Reflection is your telescope, your microscope, your gateway to exploring this vast internal cosmos.

So, what will you discover about yourself today? What insights are waiting to be uncovered? What transformations are on the horizon?

The page is blank. The pen is in your hand. Your next chapter begins now.

What will you reflect on? What will you write?

Beyond Two Cents